Gratitude · Jodythinks · Love/Life

How we deal with privilege (or lack of it)

Lately I’ve been thinking about privilege. Privilege, from my understanding, is an advantage you’ve been given, one that is not afforded by a lot of the population. There are a lot out there, mostly given through birth and/or timing. A friend jokes about this a lot with another, when there is talk of politics, especially in the US. Race is a privilege we can only be birthed into, the rest, I do think we can acquire.

Wealth and beauty are privileges that some people come into naturally, and the ones that can be most fleeting. Age can wreak havoc on one’s appearance, and wealth can easily be spent away if the person who gets it doesn’t know how to keep it or does nothing to grow it. But what happens when because of your privilege, you don’t have the coping mechanisms to deal with the problems for when these go away?

I’m not saying we should feel bad about the rich, beautiful people who might lose their privilege someday, but maybe we should be happy about what we acquire when we don’t have it. Being average looking will force you to develop a personality (whether a good or bad one is up to you). Not having wealth will make you work harder, or do more things to acquire the wealth, and make you all the more determined to sustain it.

So let’s think about this a bit. Not having privilege still gives you an advantage of developing more than what you were born with, and it will probably make you more conscious about what it takes to get there, and have to develop skills and mechanisms to make sure it doesn’t go away. And I think that’s still a good thing to have.

Sure it’ll be easier and albeit so fun to be beautiful, or be born wealthy, and the like, but the cards we’ve been dealt are different, and what we learn to make up for not being evolutionary advantaged may be much more in the end.

What do you think of privilege?

Jodythinks · Love/Life

Lessons in patience and control

Being in physical therapy for having a bum knee has been teaching me a lot in patience. In as much as I am a fan of just getting the quick fix, this knee thing isn’t going away soon and I have to have a lot of patience and self control in order to get it done.

First off, it takes at least an hour and a half of my day just getting there, and since I don’t want to drive and park for myself to somewhere that takes (supposedly) two short jeepney rides, it takes some self control in being patient with the irresponsible driving and over waiting that taking public transportation needs.

Second is dealing with the red tape. Each time I go, I need to be there at least thirty minutes beforehand so that they can request each session be approved by my HMO. I really don’t understand why it just doesn’t get approved per round of treatment since it seems very much the same process each time and I actually got this done myself in the past for the MRI that preceded all of the sessions.

Third are these:

I am a very impatient person, and these sessions take around 40 minutes to an hour. I know it’s supposed to be slow and steady progress, and without losing the weight (which is another lesson in patience and self control with food that I don’t quite have) the whole point is moot, but I am slowly enjoying the sessions as they force me to sit in a quiet space and just focus on the healing and strengthening that my knee needs to get rid of the cyst and tear that I inadvertently did to it.

Being an adult is exhausting sometimes and this knee thing is really taking a whole lot of energy and time, but as I’ve come to learn, rushing something won’t help things, sometimes it actually may make it worse. It’s how I injured the knee in the first place, and from my experience, even if you put in the work, if your body isn’t ready or you don’t know what you’re doing, you’ll be spending years and hundreds of thousands of pesos paying for looking good for half a year in pictures.

That doesn’t mean I’m giving up though. I’ll get back to shape even if it kills me. And for now, it will kill the cookie loving, ice cream hog in me for now.

What’s taught you patience lately?

Gratitude

I think you should listen to “You Can’t Always Get What You Want” today

I am a big fan of the classics and The Rolling Stones are one of the greats. With all this talk of self care and positivity, we can forget that the past has some advice for us too. I think music is one of the better ones, with songs that reach generations. One of these songs is Rolling Stones’s You Can’t Always Get What You Want.

Lyrics are here:

[Verse 1]

I saw her today at the reception

A glass of wine in her hand

I knew she was gonna meet her connection

At her feet was a footloose man

 

[Chorus]

You can’t always get what you want

You can’t always get what you want

You can’t always get what you want

But if you try sometimes

Well, you might find

You get what you need

 

[Verse 2]

And I went down to the demonstration

To get my fair share of abuse

Singing, “We’re going to vent our frustration

If we don’t, we’re going to blow a 50-amp fuse”

 

[Chorus]

You can’t always get what you want

You can’t always get what you want

You can’t always get what you want

But if you try sometimes

Well, you just might find

You get what you need

 

[Verse 3]

I went down to the Chelsea drugstore

To get your prescription filled

I was standing in line with Mr. Jimmy

And man, did he look pretty ill

We decided that we would have a soda

My favorite flavor, cherry red

I sung my song to Mr. Jimmy

Yeah, and he said one word to me, and that was “dead”

I said to him:

 

[Chorus]

You can’t always get what you want

You can’t always get what you want

You can’t always get what you want

But if you try sometimes

Well, you just might find

You get what you need

 

[Verse 4]

You get what you need, yeah, oh baby

I saw her today at the reception

In her glass was a bleeding man

She was practiced at the art of deception

Well I could tell by her blood-stained hands

 

[Outro]

You can’t always get what you want, yeah

You can’t always get what you want, ooh yeah

You can’t always get what you want

But if you try sometimes, you just might find

You just might find you get what you need, ah yeah

Ah yeah

Wooh!

Ah you can’t always get what you want (no no)

You can’t always get what you want (you can’t no no)

You can’t always get what you want

…mmm but if you try sometimes, you just might find

You just might find you get what you need

Ah yeah!

Ah yeah! Yeah

People more religious will say, “When God closes a door he opens a window”, and for a lot of non-religious folks, it makes it hard to listen, but when the Stones say “You can’t always get what you want, but if you try sometimes, you just might find you get what you need”. So the next time you face a disappointment, or face something you view as a failure, it may lead you to something that actually makes better sense.

Listen this humpday Wednesday to a song about moving forward and accepting things may not be what you thought it’d be, but it works out.

Jodythinks

What I’m thankful for today

It’s been an interesting week and I have a lot to be thankful for. With all the negativity constantly floating around us, I still hope to remind myself too that there are things to be grateful for every single day. This week, I will share some of mine:

1. I am thankful for really nice physical therapists that fit me in their schedules to make sure my knee rehab goes smoothly.

2. I am thankful for pinaritas and well made pina coladas from Atmoshpere Resort and Spa.

3. I am thankful for catching up, and difficult but necessary conversations that need to happen to give reality a chance to sink in.

4. I am thankful for beautiful sunsets over the sea.

5. And I am thankful for the ability to see and appreciate all of the aforementioned things.

 

What are you grateful for this week?