I had a friend once that always said, “Either you win or you learn” and it always irked me because I thought it was such a naive way of looking at things. Some lessons I thought, hurt too much and dig too deep to recover from. There are some that change you for good, and maybe that’s the point. For good meaning for the better and not just for good meaning from there on out. Sometimes we win. We’re lucky when it’s love (I always think in love, people get lucky, then they have to do the work to stay lucky), we work hard when it’s a job or business,…