Gratitude · Love/Life

Happy Bourdain Day

Anthony Bourdain would have been 67, June 26th of 2023. The demons won and we lost him to them in 2018. Truly befitting that going in that day, I made one of his favorite things: roasted bone marrow. To continue the truly hedonistic celebration, spent a day with friends eating our way through Thai, Vietnamese, Spanish, Mexican and Chinese food, plus two oyster trays, and ended it with massages.

The man lived. He really did. He found the highest of highs, and faced really intense lows. But he loved. He loved so many people. He wrote about humanity so well. He was the narrator we never thought we needed, and we are all the more empty now that he’s gone.

His passion was undeniable, and he was flawed as hell. He took everything to heart and it broke him in the end. I hope he’s found peace where he is.

I will end this with writing that is better than mine, because it was his.

“As you move through this life and this world you change things slightly, you leave marks behind, however small. And in return, life — and travel — leaves marks on you. Most of the time, those marks — on your body or on your heart — are beautiful. Often, though, they hurt.”

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What made me happy, June 26th 2023

Status report: Sugar is all out of whack, and is affecting so many different things. Losing sleep, breaking out in hives. It’s going to get better it’s just me.

My bright spots from the last week:

1. Acceptance. Late last week, I let go of clothes I had been holding on to for decades. I have accepted that because of everything working against me, my petite size blazers, xs skirts, and post college hoodies are long gone for me. It was half a day of humbling (but also cathartic) going through four 50L boxes, and half my childhood closet. I hope the folks mom chooses to give it to take it out to make their own memories, and feel great about themselves.

2. Getting back to Tita Sundays. Because of a few hiccups — it’s been a while since we’ve had our usual, but it was a really good one. More varied cuisine, definitely more in quantity than usual, and a much needed massage. Do I deserve it? I hope so. Did I flinch a little bit just burning through my wallet? Yeah. Still though, I realize how little my actual world is, and how little responsibility I actually hold, and it’s a luxury right now to even get good food or time away, and I’m making the most of it.

3. A (semi) wake up call. I hate when my gut is right sometimes, and my gut has been nagging at me for a bit now. It’s disheartening, but also gives me a time and space to think. To address where I may have lost my compass and realign it. I have been in limbo for far too long, hoping the sinking feeling in my stomach was just my overanxious mind. So I’m breathing deep. Letting go. Moving forward. It’s been a good run but good runs can’t last forever. I know this more than I can admit.

What made you happy lately? -J

Lost by Frank Ocean

Build Me Up Buttercup by The Foundations

Gratitude · Jodythinks · Love/Life

What made me happy — June 20, 2023

Status report: Hives are hivey and insomnia is bad.

I had a few highlights this past week.

1. Having time with friends I’ve had since kindergarten. Decades of friendship and every time we see each other I feel like I’m 12 again, listening to the Spice Girls. We don’t see each other a lot. They have very full lives, offspring even, but we usually come together last minute. I love having them around. Physically tiring, however, a total recharge of my soul.

2. Making plans. Outside of food, plane tickets are my biggest expense that I don’t balk at. With a lot of my loved ones 16 hours and more than 11,000 miles away, it’s money well spent. I can’t wait. Are we there yet?

3. Friends having helpful compulsions. One said friend stayed on my couch for an evening, and started cleaning my bookshelves and office setup while I was showering. Two hours later, my books were dusted, my storage boxes reorganized, my air fryer sparkling. I tell people all the time that I would make a crappy maid, and this really made that clear. I had hired cleaners to do an initial sweep, and did a semi-organizing rush before she came over. I will play to my strengths, and lean into this. Lucky i didn’t offend her too much, just enough for her to want to help.

Songs of the week:

Heat Waves by Glass Animals

Like Real People Do by Hozier

Sleep Well by d4vd

I’m In Love with You by The 1975

What made you happy this past week?

-J

Jodythinks

What made me happy, June 5, 2023

Status report: Insomnia and female problems, made much easier by good friends and the internet.

What made me happy last week:

1. Finding a new snack phase. I go through food phases. Recently, I am all about sushi and dumplings for when we go to restaurants, and that has been fun. Just this past week though, cultural introduction to my new obsession of a local snack made out of the excess from communion wafer production. Really kicks in my tasteless snacking reflex from childhood.

2. Risks that turn out well. In a rare instance of spontaneity, I made a change and trusted other people to take over changing my appearance. So far it’s going okay, just feels different.

3. New projects. This weekend, in a fit of hope, I bought 4 pots of herbs. With my track record with plants, it’s a long shot, but one can dream.

Wendy Xu has encapsulated how it feels right now

Songs of the week:

Goodbye Yellow Brick Road by Elton John, version by Sara Bareilles

Requiem from Dear Evan Hansen by Kaitlyn Dever, Adam Pino and Amy Adams

Like Real People Do by Hozier

Closing Time by Semisonic

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What made me happy as of June 12th, 2023

Status report: Hives are back and angrier than ever. Finding a better way to keep myself active so I can sleep better is also a little difficult, but not impossible. Consistency really is something I need to work on, especially with all these medications.

The bright spots of the previous week:

1. Finding The Clumsy Lass. I find solace in poetry, especially in quieter days, when all I feel is the compulsion to yell out because no one is listening. This particular piece really spoke to me:

So the next time

my heart gets drunk on adrenaline

just by looking into someone’s eyes,

I’d rather not fall.

I’d choose to walk,

gradually,

in a pace not too slow

that I miss every chance I get,

and not too fast

that I forget to even think.

I have a tendency to want to run towards things I like with no thoughts of self preservation, or, when hurt, completely shut down.

2. Planning things. After a long wait, good news about long shots turned our way, and now, good things await. There’s a lot to pin down, but in good ways.

Songs of the week:

Miles Apart by Nick Wilson

Favorite Crime by Olivia Rodrigo

Happier Than Ever by Billie Eilish

-J